I recently had a email from a babylost mama. She found my blog and wrote to thank me for sharing my experience. And she told me about hers. Still very raw and new, she is feeling lost and alone in a country far from her home. People don't want to talk about her baby. No support or counselling was offered. 'They' didn't think it was a good idea for her to hold her precious baby. I could feel her intense pain and loneliness and anger through her writing. I cried thinking about her birth experience and about how she felt so alone.
I wrote to her and told her that she is not alone, that we are here and the we understand. We really understand. I told her that we will talk about her baby with her and scream with her and sometimes hate the world with her.
I told her we would take care of her.
I have not heard back. I need to know that she is OK. Not OK, as no-one here is 'OK' but you know what I mean.
If you are there, please just let me know how you are going.
You are not alone, even though at times you feel such an indescribable loneliness.
We are here with you on this awful journey.