tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post2306212926851062280..comments2023-05-18T00:15:18.370+10:00Comments on warm whispers: the things that are saidRachaelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08573991998853561283noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-81478021283967750772009-05-18T18:24:00.000+10:002009-05-18T18:24:00.000+10:00Yep, people can be crap...XXxxYep, people can be crap...XXxxWorld Wide Alternativehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08136925137010566003noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-59474606411883599022009-05-17T12:20:00.000+10:002009-05-17T12:20:00.000+10:00Rach,
You are so right. We have heard them all in...Rach,<br /><br />You are so right. We have heard them all in the last five years.<br />From, at least you can have another, to it was God's way of telling you enough kids, right up to if Will hadn't have died you would never had Ivy and Noah and at least you have other kids.<br /><br />It all sucks. People who haven't been there, just don't cope well.tiff(threeringcircus)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08420950909441334594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-17809774226920159672009-05-15T13:09:00.000+10:002009-05-15T13:09:00.000+10:00Yep, we're so crap at dealing with death, and I ha...Yep, we're so crap at dealing with death, and I hate how it makes people spew all kinds of unhelpful things, if not hurtful. And too many excuses made for people who "simply don't know what to say". As Angie has said before, people need to figure it out. Much love to you Rach. xoPaigehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06345329799912987528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-16835019893720859682009-05-15T08:30:00.000+10:002009-05-15T08:30:00.000+10:00yes, yes and yes. I was at the funeral of my 90 ye...yes, yes and yes. I was at the funeral of my 90 year old grandfather yesterday and people say the dumbest things. he was 90 and lived a long full life. yesterday was a celebration of the great man he was. but people still put their foot in it. and all people want to know of me is "so, you working again yet?" translation: so you over this dead baby thing yet?Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-50927183619904615842009-05-15T00:08:00.000+10:002009-05-15T00:08:00.000+10:00You are so so very right...how is it that we (coll...You are so so very right...how is it that we (collective society we) are so unequipped to handle conversations about death. I mean, do we need an Oprah show to get everyone educated? (I say that in jest of course)<br /><br />The worst we heard was 'at least you got to name her'...um, huh? <br /><br />I'm new to your blog, I'm so very sorry that Alice isn't here with you and we had to meet like this. We should be meeting to celebrate our daughters who are the same age. My daughter, Rose, is Alice's due date sister. Rose was also due 1/28. Rose died 1/16, and was born 1/18. <br /><br />How are you doing these days, now that the '1 year' dates are approaching? Conception, finding out you were expecting, first appts....I feel like these are going to be a hard few months as I remember the hopefulness of a year ago.<br /><br />with love,<br />traceyThttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04324947171918038530noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-75610062090665984372009-05-14T23:52:00.000+10:002009-05-14T23:52:00.000+10:00Yup, people are morons. I usually say you don't kn...Yup, people are morons. I usually say you don't know that, and I'm mourning the loss of this son who meant the world to me. It's hard enough mourning and then we have to educate people on grief as well. So frustrating. I also had a "I know how you feel, when my dog died..." comparison.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-15513418510954788002009-05-14T22:49:00.000+10:002009-05-14T22:49:00.000+10:00Hi Rach - yep, I have heard some ridiculous one's ...Hi Rach - yep, I have heard some ridiculous one's too. I remember a neighbour (who used to be a good friend) started comparing our situation with the death of her dog..... crazy!! Needless to say, I don't bother with her too much anymore.<br /><br />Strength to you.Leahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05569964047627902570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-36821225846111431422009-05-14T22:35:00.000+10:002009-05-14T22:35:00.000+10:00You're right Rach, we are useless at talking about...You're right Rach, we are useless at talking about death and particularly the death of a baby.<br /><br />"At least you know you can conceive" was one of the most useless comments I remember.<br /><br />xxxBarbarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01484695553612265127noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-52453630345138431442009-05-14T20:46:00.000+10:002009-05-14T20:46:00.000+10:00That one really makes me rage. I like that respons...That one really makes me rage. I like that response, Sarah. I usually say, "Well, we aren't sure we are having more babies. We wanted two girl, and we birthed two girls."<br /><br />I totally agree, Rach, there need to be some honest conversations about talking about babyloss. People are so clueless. Much love. XOstill life angiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15150141781089602529noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7360787673164513204.post-7970971785853657252009-05-14T20:22:00.000+10:002009-05-14T20:22:00.000+10:00Oh Rach, you are so right.I tend to snarkily respo...Oh Rach, you are so right.I tend to snarkily respond something along the lines of 'but not that one" or "they won't be Ezra". Sending love and hugsezra'smommyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17342399045659116165noreply@blogger.com